Birthplace: Upney, Essex, UK.
Current location: Gold Coast, Australia
Occupation: Breakthrough coach & part-time English teacher.
“What we focus on grows”…..
If you had asked me what my ‘why’ was last week, I would’ve told you that it was to stop suffering/pain being passed down from generation to generation. Through our own personal transformations, through our own healing so that we may be self-aware and not indoctrinate our children, partners, peers and societies with the pain that we had been given, had received and experienced as well as the pain that we had created for ourselves. I have, for some time, known that, as the saying goes, to create the change we wish to see in the world that we must first begin with ourselves. I got that every climb of 1000 steps begins with 1 – and yet, I was climbing the stairs backwards. My drive was almost all ‘away from’ and so instead of creating healthy scenarios that reflected my desire, I created a life that reflected my fears. Continual escape artist action, running, hiding, hurting myself, denying myself. My actions were fear based, even though what I desired and strived to move towards was love. I was doing the very things I claimed to not want because of where my focus was. So instead of creating healing and loving spaces, I created spaces that needed healing but were of pain, confusion and fear. Worse still, I drew others into that with me.
The Old Me
At 22 I was in dire pain. I had just left a mentally, emotionally and physically abusive relationship and was recovering from having lost a baby. Trust of myself and others was shredded and the child within still had not healed from the two family separations, sexual abuse and continental moves. I was resisting, back and forth between ignoring the pain and doing the shadow work. Back and forth between serious anxiety and depression and trying to fake being okay to the world. A power struggle between me and the world ensued. Through conditioning, through pain passed down, I made myself a prisoner to my own pain and existence. I locked people out, I avoided the truth, I sold myself a lie and I gave myself the poison.
At 24 I finally chose something different for myself. After a break-up and break down I chose to move to the other side of the world, to look deep within undisturbed. Day in and day out for about 4 months I dug, pulled back the layers, faced myself. I would soon learn that the learning would never quite be done, though acceptance was on the horizon. In this time I prayed like a Muslim and sat in silence like a Buddhist, fasted for 5 days, journaled until my hands hurt, took up chastity and returned to my yoga practice. I studied Ayurveda, NLP, Non-Violent Communication and enlisted in countless personal development workshops and masterclasses as well as getting my own coach to guide me through Limiting Beliefs and Negative Emotions.
Rebirth of the Why
Fast forward 2 years and my ‘why’ has died and been reborn. It is no longer the liberation from pain because life is about way more than fighting and running. My ‘why’ is to love. To experience me as love and to share that with others. My ‘why’ is to hold space for others whilst they shake off the old and emerge as their true selves, their glowing selves. Their selves who in the night, in the darkness, shine. Finally, I began to breathe. Looking at myself in the mirror is not the challenge it used to be. In this place of surrender, acceptance and love I am now able to create a life of my own design that reflects my true desires.
How I serve
With seeing how my journey to healing has been, to witness my own liberation, I know I must now share this with you. As an Intuitive Life-Coach, I am here to hold that space for you, to guide those who are ready through their transformation so that they may breakthrough and break free from the past and begin to consciously create the now, the life that you truly desire. With Tarot, I am here to channel messages for you, with you, so that you may feel more aware and guided about your current trajectory. I know within that you are not here reading this by accident… You are ready for guidance, your shift,ready to activate your true self!
To those who are in this position directly, right now, I advise you to go within. To ask what this is showing you, to journal as a way of releasing emotions, to reach out to those who have walked this path and learn from them. Take things day by day, and know that this too shall pass. Start putting healthy habits in place that will change your life over the course of time. Invest in yourself. Most of all, know that you are not alone in this & that if you look/ask there is always someone you can reach out to.
Kem on the Sustainable Development Goals
Hmm, I believe they are all obviously very important, however, I have a strong idea that when our basic needs are met we are able to move onwards and upwards through the developmental stages. Therefore I would say that reducing/eradicating poverty is the most important. When people are out of survival mode they are then able to have better health, think about sourcing better education and so on. These things are inextricably interlinked on some level or other, but to me, I see covering survival and thus poverty as the best place to start. Poverty is not just a physical and environmental disposition but also a mindset. I believe that to change poverty the mindset of the masses must be transformed.
By changing poverty from the mindset up there will be a rise in the number of people who can actively contribute to the growth of life on earth, nourishing the economy as opposed to the fear-based mindset of depleting it. With an abundance mindset, we would see that there is enough for everyone to live an enjoyable sustainable life.
I feel very passionate about empowering other, sharing their truth & stories so that they may be heard, in a way that educates them as to how to cultivate this for themselves also. Causes regarding education, health and the environment are especially close to my heart.